fix(update): the legacy start_watchdog matches the monitor exactly too; a restart is reported only when the monitor runs (Issue #72, review round 4)

With MAM_DELEGATION_PY=0 the legacy helper still found the monitor with an
unanchored pgrep -f, so a process that only named the monitor path was
reported as the restarted monitor and none was started. lib.sh _monitor_pids
is the shell twin of daemon.find_running; update.sh and post_update.sh check
the PID start_watchdog printed with mam_monitor_started before saying
"monitor: restarted".

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

.agents/skills/lib.sh

@@ -2235,6 +2235,41 @@ _delegate_publish_event_legacy() {
   "$py_bin" "$pub" --job "$job_id" --event "$event" --detail "$detail" ${extra[@]+"${extra[@]}"} || true
 }
 
+# _monitor_pids <monitor_script>
+# Issue #72: PIDs whose command line is exactly `<bash> <monitor_script>
+# --subscribe[ ...]` - the shell twin of lib_py.delegation.daemon.find_running,
+# so both start_watchdog branches recognise the same daemons. Not a `pgrep -f`
+# regex: that also matched another workspace's daemon (an unescaped `.`) and a
+# process that only names the path in an argument.
+_monitor_pids() {
+  ps -A -ww -o pid= -o args= | MAM_MONITOR_WANT="$1 --subscribe" awk '
+    { line = $0; sub(/^ +/, "", line)
+      i = index(line, " "); if (!i) next
+      pid = substr(line, 1, i - 1); args = substr(line, i + 1)
+      j = index(args, " "); if (!j) next
+      n = split(substr(args, 1, j - 1), a0, "/"); rest = substr(args, j + 1)
+      want = ENVIRON["MAM_MONITOR_WANT"]
+      if (a0[n] == "bash" && (rest == want || index(rest, want " ") == 1)) print pid }'
+}
+
+# mam_monitor_started <workspace> <pid...>
+# Issue #72: 0 once one of the PIDs start_watchdog printed is WORKSPACE's
+# monitor (_monitor_pids), so a restart is only reported when it happened.
+# Polled for up to 5 s: a daemon just started from the shell carries its
+# parent's command line until it execs bash.
+mam_monitor_started() {
+  local script="$1/.agents/skills/multi-agent-mux-monitor/scripts/reconcile.sh" n=0 p
+  shift
+  while [ "$n" -lt 50 ]; do
+    for p in $(_monitor_pids "$script"); do
+      case " $* " in *" $p "*) return 0 ;; esac
+    done
+    sleep 0.1
+    n=$((n + 1))
+  done
+  return 1
+}
+
 # start_watchdog <job_id> [workdir]
 # Spawns a watchdog process to monitor a delegate-job JOB in the background.
 # The watchdog re-spawns the subscriber every 2 minutes (or whatever hard
@@ -2253,7 +2288,7 @@ _start_watchdog_legacy() {
   
   # Check if reconcile.sh --subscribe is already running on this workspace
   local pid
-  pid=$(pgrep -f "bash $monitor_script --subscribe" || true)
+  pid=$(_monitor_pids "$monitor_script" || true)
   
   # Issue #19: MAM_NO_SUBSCRIBER_DAEMON=1 reports a running daemon but never
   # starts one (test sandboxes; externally supervised monitors).