fix(issue-19): close the trap race, select daemons by argv shape, align docs with the polling fallback

Review round 1 (claude PASS, agy PASS) recommendations:
- reconcile.sh: `_sub_stop` falls back to `$!` for the window before
  `_sub_pid=$!` (R-1); lock identity compared as (st_dev, st_ino).
- lib.sh legacy start_watchdog prints nothing when opted out and no daemon
  runs, byte-identical to the python body.
- conftest/test: `_is_subscriber_daemon_argv` selects only
  `bash|sh <root>/.../reconcile.sh --subscribe`, never a brief-carrying
  wrapper that quotes the words or a prefix-colliding sibling root (R-2);
  one new unit test for the selector.
- monitor SKILL.md / VERSIONS.md: the polling fallback checks the lock
  file's presence only and does not exclude a second daemon; measurement
  wording uses the argv-shape criterion instead of raw pgrep.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Fable 5.1 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01VCgu9Fa9iT7TbJUSzdq4Ff

.agents/skills/multi-agent-mux-monitor/scripts/reconcile.sh

@@ -79,9 +79,12 @@ if [ "$SUBSCRIBE" = "1" ]; then
   _sub_pid=""
   _sub_stop() {
     trap - TERM INT
-    if [ -n "$_sub_pid" ]; then
-      kill -TERM "$_sub_pid" 2>/dev/null || true
-      wait "$_sub_pid" 2>/dev/null || true
+    # `$!` covers the window between `&` and `_sub_pid=$!` (review R-1); a
+    # child that already exited makes kill/wait harmless no-ops.
+    local child="${_sub_pid:-${!:-}}"
+    if [ -n "$child" ]; then
+      kill -TERM "$child" 2>/dev/null || true
+      wait "$child" 2>/dev/null || true
     fi
     exit 143
   }
@@ -115,7 +118,8 @@ except BlockingIOError:
 except Exception as e:
     print(f"MQTT Monitor: failed to acquire monitor lock ({e}). Exiting.", flush=True)
     sys.exit(1)
-lock_ino = os.fstat(lock_file.fileno()).st_ino
+_lock_st = os.fstat(lock_file.fileno())
+lock_ident = (_lock_st.st_dev, _lock_st.st_ino)
 
 
 def _workspace_gone():
@@ -131,7 +135,8 @@ def _workspace_gone():
     if not os.path.isdir(root):
         return f"workspace {root} no longer exists"
     try:
-        if os.stat(lock_file_path).st_ino != lock_ino:
+        st = os.stat(lock_file_path)
+        if (st.st_dev, st.st_ino) != lock_ident:
             return f"{lock_file_path} was replaced"
     except OSError:
         return f"{lock_file_path} no longer exists"
@@ -367,6 +372,9 @@ PYEOF
     _start=$(date +%s)
     # Issue #19: same lifecycle as the MQTT loop - stop when the workspace is
     # gone, and sleep in a waited child so SIGTERM/SIGINT are not deferred.
+    # The python child released .mam/monitor.lock when it exited, so this
+    # fallback checks the lock file's *presence* only and does not exclude a
+    # second daemon (pre-existing behaviour of the fallback).
     trap 'trap - TERM INT; exit 143' TERM INT
     while :; do
       if [ ! -d "$WORKSPACE_ROOT" ] || [ ! -f "$WORKSPACE_ROOT/.mam/monitor.lock" ]; then