fix(update): the monitor is this workspace's exact command line; create/resume take the pane workspace's admission; refusal snapshots compare the registry by rows (Issue #72, review round 3)

- daemon.find_running matches `<bash> <reconcile.sh> --subscribe[ ...]`
  exactly instead of an unanchored, unescaped pgrep regex: another
  workspace's daemon (ws.a vs wsXa) or a process naming the path in an
  argument is no longer signalled by the update. update.sh re-checks which
  PIDs are still the monitor before SIGKILL.
- create and resume (spawn path) take the update admission of every
  installed workspace at or above the pane cwd, not only the control
  root's (lib.sh mam_update_admit_at, lib_py.update target-workspaces --cwd);
  the ~/.local/bin wrapper child drops all of them.
- tests: snapshot() skips the SQLite -wal/-shm and compares the DB by its
  rows (macOS keeps the sidecars and a read rewrites -shm); regression tests
  for the monitor match and for create/resume in another installed
  workspace (marker and lock wait); evidence line refs shifted.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

.agents/skills/lib_py/update.py

@@ -23,6 +23,9 @@ this module what needs parsing. Standard library only, Python 3.9.
       the live agent's on server V) and its row's control_plane
       workspace_root. Nothing for a non-herdr target. rc 1: herdr cannot
       answer for a rowless target.
+  python -m lib_py.update target-workspaces --workspace W --cwd C
+      The same for an agent create or resume starts in C: every installed
+      workspace at or above C other than W.
   python -m lib_py.update backup-registry --workspace W --dest D
       Copies the registry into D under the registry's own write lock
       (agent-sessions.db.lock, as atomic_yaml takes it): the DB through the
@@ -296,6 +299,12 @@ def target_workspaces(workspace: str, state: dict, agent_session: str, server: s
             if a.get("name") in (name, sanitize_herdr_agent_name(name)):
                 cwds += [a.get("cwd") or "", a.get("foreground_cwd") or ""]
                 break
+    return _others(workspace, out + installed_above(cwds))
+
+
+def installed_above(cwds: Iterable[str]) -> List[str]:
+    """Every installed workspace at or above each cwd."""
+    out = []
     for cwd in cwds:
         d = _real(cwd) if cwd else ""
         while d:
@@ -304,8 +313,12 @@ def target_workspaces(workspace: str, state: dict, agent_session: str, server: s
             if os.path.dirname(d) == d:
                 break
             d = os.path.dirname(d)
+    return out
+
+
+def _others(workspace: str, dirs: List[str]) -> List[str]:
     me = _real(workspace)
-    return [d for i, d in enumerate(out) if d != me and d not in out[:i]]
+    return [d for i, d in enumerate(dirs) if d != me and d not in dirs[:i]]
 
 
 # --------------------------------------------------------------------------- monitor
@@ -367,7 +380,8 @@ def main(argv: Optional[List[str]] = None) -> int:
     s.add_argument("--workspace", required=True)
     s = sub.add_parser("target-workspaces")
     s.add_argument("--workspace", required=True)
-    s.add_argument("--agent-session", required=True)
+    s.add_argument("--agent-session", default="")
+    s.add_argument("--cwd", default="")
     s.add_argument("--server", default="default")
     s.add_argument("--herdr", default="")
     s = sub.add_parser("backup-registry")
@@ -385,6 +399,10 @@ def main(argv: Optional[List[str]] = None) -> int:
         for line in lines:
             print(line)
         return 1 if lines else 0
+    if a.cmd == "target-workspaces" and a.cwd:
+        for root in _others(ws, installed_above([a.cwd])):
+            print(root)
+        return 0
     if a.cmd == "target-workspaces":
         try:
             state = _state()