fix(stop): the exit-4 refusal names where the holder may be (Issue #31, Mac review)

The refusal pointed at ~/.claude/sessions/ for every agent, whatever
CLAUDE_CONFIG_DIR said, and never mentioned a non-agent process naming the
uuid on its command line. The in-use CLI now prints, on stderr while the
conversation is in use, the adapter's in_use_hints: for every adapter
`ps -axww | grep <uuid>`, and for claude its real sessions/ dir first. stop
prints them under its refusal, and says "records preserved" instead of
"no state was modified": the gate runs after the kill chain, so the session
itself may already be down. SKILL.md's exit 4 row says the same; it is not
a code block, so no inventory hash moves.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

.agents/skills/multi-agent-mux-stop/SKILL.md

@@ -62,7 +62,7 @@ bash .agents/skills/multi-agent-mux-stop/scripts/stop_session.sh \
 | 1 | From the checks before the stop, nothing was changed: YAML not found, or the session is not registered. **The registry update after the stop also exits 1** (the row disappeared from the YAML during the run) |
 | 2 | Bad arguments (including the retired `--mode` / `--capture-id` / `--graceful`), or `--agent` omitted and not resolvable |
 | 3 | `--purge-conversation` without `--yes` |
-| 4 | Purge aborted: the herdr session, or an agent process still holding the conversation, survived the kill chain (nothing was changed) |
+| 4 | Purge aborted: the herdr session, or an agent process still holding the conversation, survived the kill chain. Records preserved: the registry row and the conversation files are untouched, though the session itself may already be down |
 | other | The registry update after the stop (YAML / DB write) failed and its code is passed through |
 
 Exits 2 and 3, and exit 1 from the pre-stop checks, come before anything is stopped, so nothing was changed. On exit 1 from the registry update, or an `other` exit, the session may already be down while its row still says `running`: check with `multi-agent-mux-status`, then run the stop again (it is idempotent).